Monday, August 15, 2016

Protected From Ourselves

My Life Group lesson for August 14, 2016, using Lifeway's "Explore the Bible" commentary as a guide, with an assist from John McClendon ...


Have you ever wanted to see bad things happen to bad people?

For example, have you ever been tempted to retaliate when a driver cuts you off driving down the interstate? How about when a boss treats you badly? Or when a spouse is treated badly and you want to come to their defense?

How did you react? Were you tempted to “get back at them” in some way?

Where is the line between defending yourself and trusting God to step in on your behalf? How do you know when to wait patiently on God when the only thing you want to do is defend yourself or those you love?

While many Christians want their actions to be guided by prayer, grace, love, and patience, it’s too tempting to settle for homegrown justice.

We lash out in anger instead of waiting patiently on God. We buy into the cliché that it’s better to ask forgiveness than ask permission.

And yes, it may feel good in the moment, but will it be good in the long run?

Where is the line between defending yourself and trusting God to step in on your behalf? How do you know when to wait patiently on God when the only thing you want to do is defend yourself or those you love?

Today we'll study how David was treated unfairly by Nabal, and ultimately learned it was up to God to provide justice.

God is sovereign and we are to focus on our relationship with God and allow Him to judge accordingly.

1 Samuel 25:1-43

*** In chapter 24 David spares Saul's life in the cave. As chapter 25 begins Samuel dies.

*** David and his men are in the wilderness in southern Israel.

*** It is there that David asks a rich man named Nabal for money in return for protection in the region.

(David was sort of like a warlord in that he and his men controlled this large territory. Nabal's flocks were in David's territory, but David didn't want to take anything, so he asked.)


14 One of Nabal’s young men informed Abigail, Nabal’s wife: “Look, David sent messengers from the wilderness to greet our master, but he yelled at them. 15 The men treated us well. When we were in the field, we weren’t harassed and nothing of ours was missing the whole time we were living among them. 16 They were a wall around us, both day and night, the entire time we were herding the sheep. 17 Now consider carefully what you must do, because there is certain to be trouble for our master and his entire family. He is such a worthless fool nobody can talk to him!”

*** R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what that means to me.

--- When David’s men asked Nabal for help they found out that he was a hard-hearted jerk.

--- Nabal scoffed, insulted David and told them to get off his lawn, so to speak.

--- David doesn't accept this in a godly manner and tells his men to grab their swords for slashing time.

--- Nabal had violated one of David's core moral principles: he had repaid good with evil.

--- David's a soldier. He valued loyalty. He was loyal to Saul even though the king was trying to kill him. So Nabal’s refusal to help was the hardest kind of offense to forgive.

--- One of Nabal's shepherds was a courageous peacemaker and knew that this wouldn't end well, so he went to Nabal's wife Abigail for another option.

--- He was right to do so, because Abigail was wise and resourceful.

--- He explained that even though David could command as he wished, his men had protected the men and their flocks, and never harmed anyone.

--- Both Abigail and the shepherd knew that by the code of the wilderness, David’s troops were owed compensation.

*** Abby to the rescue.

--- Abigail decided to act on her own and loaded up “200 loaves of bread, two skins of wine, five butchered sheep, a bushel of roasted grain, 100 clusters of raisins, and 200 cakes of pressed figs, loaded them on donkeys” and went out to meet David before his men arrived to kill all of Nabal’s men.

--- She lied down in front of David and apologized for the “stupidity” of her husband, which was fitting since his name in Hebrew means “insolent, selfish, and stupid person.”

(Not sure why a parent would name their kid that, but nowadays we see some weird names.)

--- Abigail is an example of grace in action, interceding for her worthless husband who didn’t deserve her intervention.

*** Question - Do you feel David’s response was a “knee-jerk” response? What else could he have done?

DAVID RELENTS (1 SAM. 25:32-35)

32 Then David said to Abigail, “Praise to the LORD God of Israel, who sent you to meet me today! 33 Your discernment is blessed, and you are blessed. Today you kept me from participating in bloodshed and avenging myself by my own hand. 34 Otherwise, as surely as the LORD God of Israel lives, who prevented me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, Nabal wouldn’t have had any men left by morning light.” 35 Then David accepted what she had brought him and said, “Go home in peace. See, I have heard what you said and have granted your request.”

*** Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

--- How often do you watch a baseball game and a pitcher retaliates by hitting a batter?

--- Usually what happens is a bench-clearing brawl. But more often than not someone usually comes out to hold the players back and things calm down.

--- With Abigail's action, David realized he'd been a fool and was saved from a terrible sin.

--- Think back to last week's lesson when Saul had dozens of priests and the entire village of Nob massacred when he wrongly assumed that Ahimelech was helping David.

--- David knew that his anger was out of control and he was about to do what Saul had done, no matter how much Nabal deserved punishment.

--- David and his men were about to murder innocent people to avenge one arrogant man.

--- Think of the damage this would do to David's reputation as well. All the goodwill he'd built up to be king after Saul would vanish.

*** Let it go.

--- David repented, did not taunt Nabal and did not warn him about future indiscretions. He simply went turned around.

--- This is a good model for letting go of anger and bitterness.

--- When turned away from doing evil, we should thank God for those who intervened and turn away entirely. Don't hold on to it to use later.

(Even when they cut in front of you in the after-school car line.)

--- David learned what we see in the New Testament as our new covenant: Turn the other cheek, no eye-for-an-eye, love thy neighbor as thy self.

--- In the Old Testament people were allowed to stone sinners. As we saw with the woman caught cheating on her husband, Jesus, however, has us drop our rocks.

--- Paul writes in Ephesians 4:31-32 - "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."

*** Question - Can you recall episodes in your life when someone turned you from a wrong and foolish act? (How did this serve as a milestone in your Christian walk?)

GOD INTERVENES (1 SAM. 25:36-38)

36 Then Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was in his house, holding a feast fit for a king. Nabal was in a good mood and very drunk, so she didn’t say anything to him until morning light. 37 In the morning when Nabal sobered up, his wife told him about these events. Then he had a seizure and became paralyzed. 38 About 10 days later, the LORD struck Nabal dead.

*** Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life, son.

--- When Nabal was insulting David and living the life of spring break in Florida, he was blissfully ignorant that his life was in danger.

--- When he learned about what Abigail did, he had a seizure, became paralyzed and died.

--- Was he terrified of his fate? Was it a heart attack from anger at Abigail’s intercession?

--- Whatever it was, the Bible says simply that the LORD struck him dead.

--- Nabal had a hard heart, and it cost him his life.

*** Vengeance is not ours to give.

--- Contrast three verses back-to-back-to-back in Romans. First, 12:19: “Friends, do not avenge yourselves; instead, leave room for His wrath. For it is written: Vengeance belongs to Me; I will repay, says the Lord” Question – Does this mean that we hope people who have wronged us will “get what they deserve?”

(Had David backed off, yet said, “God give him what he deserves” would he have truly repented?) (No)

--- Now check out what Romans 12:20-21 says right after that: But If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him something to drink. For in so doing you will be heaping fiery coals on his head. Do not be conquered by evil, but conquer evil with good.

--- If we only isolate verse 19 of Romans 12, then we miss out on the complete principle. David did not hope for any kind of retribution against Nabal. He simply backed off. The rest was left up to God.

--- When we, by faith, receive God’s mercy, we are saved. However, when we reject God’s mercy, we place ourselves in the path of God’s wrath.


Today’s session focuses on King David’s relationship with a haughty sheep rancher named Nabal.

After David and his men protected Nabal, Nabal disrespected David. This caused David to launch an attack against Nabal.

But before David reached Nabal, his wife Abigail intervened.

But – a plot twist! - it was actually David who was protected!

David recognized that he did not have to take matters into his own hands.

Ultimately, it was God who punished Nabal and saved David’s honor.

Often, we take matters into our own hands, not waiting on God’s perfect plan.

Today’s lesson reminds us that God is so big, so completely in control that He doesn’t need our help to defend His honor or His people, no matter how awful it seems to us.

From David’s limited perspective, he needed to act for the problem to be solved.

From God’s complete perspective, the problem was already being solved without David’s help.

*** (1) Proverbs 16:9 says “A man’s heart plans his way, but the LORD determines his steps.” God is never late, nor is He early; He is always right on time.

*** (2) We should be thankful when He keeps us from acting out of selfish motives. Believers can trust that God will bring about judgment against evil.

*** (3) Decide today that you will go to God in the face of conflict, instead of taking matters into your own hands. Even if the outcome isn’t pleasant, your relationship with Christ will be strengthened.


Steve Graig C & C said...

Thanks Jeff! These are great insights! I'm a week behind, so I will make good use of your blog in class next Sunday. Thanks again!

Jeff Rushing said...

Thanks! Glad to help!